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Delaying a divorce

originally posted: 11/22/2006  reposted: 2/18/2011 This post has not been recently reviewed or revised by the author and may be out of date. If you notice an error or are in doubt, please send a new question by email or ask for an update. Email

Q: I know that I will get divorced as soon as I can afford it but things never seem to be the right time. How do others afford the cost of getting divorced

A: It is never a good time to get divorced. You should be realistic in assessing that your financial situation will get worse before it gets better. Waiting almost never improves finances in a marriage, especially if communication is poor and finances are a contributing reason for the discontent. The best financial advice anyone could offer is to do what needs to be done now, get through it as best you can, and then begin rebuilding your life from scratch for a more financially secure future. Try taking an hour with OnlineAdviser to lay out a practical approach to the financial issues. It is almost impossible for a person to see the likely outcome by themselves due to the overwhelming emotions vested in the current situation. It may not be what you want to hear, but it would be valuable to get some "straight talk" on these problem issues.


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